I looked at the date in my diary today and suddenly thought, what the hell is one buying for oneself for Valentines day this year?
Yep, if it isn’t already obvious, I’m single. Moreover, I’m single with a cherry on top. This is my second year of celebrating the dreading d-day.
I think last year was a pyjama wearing, Bridget Jones-watching cosy night in with my family.
However, I have a feeling this year will probably be a wine drinking, moon walking kind of girl’s night out.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always hated the idea of the generic present on valentines day. I used to hate receiving the ‘quick buy’ of a dozen red roses, a personalised mug and a bear, there’s just no emotion in it.
What’s worse is that it feels like the ‘I had to present’, not ‘I want to present’, and the latter is definitely what you want.
I would much rather a cosy meal somewhere (probably Italian, I love cheese), and a secret dance on the beach or something. Just me and him. Simple.
Then it had be thinking, what’s the real meaning of valentines day?
Well, the first record of Valentine’s day dates back to 496, and no, I haven’t forgotten another number.
Lupercalia, was an annual fertility festival to mark springtime in the Roman times, and the origins of v-day.
Although the Roman’s celebrated valentines day on the 15th, it wasn’t until the 1300s that Pope Gelasius declared valentines day be associated with love and to be celebrated on the 14th of February.
The exchange of cards was brought in in the 1600s, and then with the mass production of gifts and flowers in the 1940s, we have *drum roll*, today’s valentines day.
When I was young, the only valentines cards and flowers I got were off my dad. I think he felt sorry for me because most girls got one in school and I didn’t *sobs*.
To be fair, I’ll probably be writing up my dissertation on valentines day but HEY, I want that Carrie Bradshaw-city-chic lifestyle, so you gotta do what you gotta do!
In all honesty though, when I think of Valentines Day, I think of love.
And that love isn’t pre-packed flowers or generic chocolates, it’s the doing part of the relationship, it’s how you treat each other everyday, not just one day of the year, and maybe your birthday. Like Jamie Dornan said in an interview, “I don’t believe in gifts, every day is Valentines Day with my wife.”
I think Valentines Day should be about each other and celebrating another amazing day together, whatever you do, should reflect the love you have for each other. Love cannot be bought.